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By Robin Norwood
In this book, "Women Who Love Too Much," Robin Norwood delves into the complex patterns of codependent relationships, particularly focusing on women who struggle with unhealthy attachments.
In a landmark event, Africana, the renowned African luxury fashion house, showcased its latest SS24 collection, 'THE ART OF LIFE,' at the 'Africana Experience Live.' Held at Harrow Park, Abuja, the brand's inaugural runway show epitomised its exceptional growth and commitment to artisanal craftsmanship, blending traditional African elements with contemporary design.
Discipline is the bridge between goals and accomplishment.
Set Clear Goals: One of the first steps in becoming disciplined is setting clear and achievable goals. Without a clear direction, it becomes challenging to stay focused and motivated. Start by identifying your long-term objectives and break them down into smaller, manageable tasks or milestones. This will help you stay organized and maintain a sense of purpose.
By Chidinmma Ojukwu (Lifestyle & Fashion Reporter)
Having spent a decade in the luxury menswear industry, being a beacon of prosperity, and fostering the spirit of a Pan-African community, Africana has solidified its position in the Nigerian fashion industry and is set to take the global stage. Africana is about to unveil a comprehensive collection named "THE ART OF LIFE" which will debut at the brand's inaugural fashion show, "AFRICANA EXPERIENCE LIVE". The show promises to connect guests with their African heritage while immersing them in a contemporary fashion experience.
By Chidinmma Ojukwu (Lifestyle & Fashion Reporter)
Africana, a vanguard in the luxury African fashion industry for a decade, is poised to reveal its latest venture, "THE ART OF LIFE," a comprehensive collection showcasing at the brand's inaugural fashion show, the "AFRICANA EXPERIENCE LIVE."
By Emily Alison and Lawrence Alison
In Rapport: The Four Ways to Read People and Talk to Anyone in Any Situation, the authors present four key principles for building rapport with others:
Empathy: Understanding and sharing the feelings of another person.
Alignment: Finding common ground and shared interests.
Mirroring: Subtly imitating the other person's body language, tone of voice, and facial expressions.
Validation: Acknowledging and accepting the other person's thoughts and feelings.
The book provides practical advice on how to apply these principles in a variety of situations, such as job interviews, first dates, and difficult conversations.
Fifteen lessons from Rapport:
Rapport is essential for building strong relationships.
Anyone can learn to build rapport.
The key to building rapport is to be genuinely interested in the other person.
Pay attention to the other person's body language.
Be mindful of your own body language.
Find common ground with the other person.
Ask open-ended questions.
Be a good listener.
Be respectful of the other person's opinions.
Be willing to compromise.
Be patient.
Be yourself.
Practice makes perfect.
Building rapport takes time and effort.
The rewards of building rapport are well worth the effort. NNL.
By David Brooks
Character is more important than success. Success is fleeting, but character is enduring. A person with good character will be successful in the long run, even if they don't achieve all of their immediate goals.
Character is developed through struggle. It is easy to be virtuous when everything is going well, but the true test of character comes when faced with adversity. We can develop our character by overcoming challenges and setbacks.
Character is formed by our relationships. We are shaped by the people we spend time with. If we want to develop good character, we need to surround ourselves with people who are virtuous.
Humility is the foundation of character. A humble person is aware of their own weaknesses and limitations. They are also open to learning from others.
Courage is essential for character. Courage is the willingness to do what is right, even when it is difficult. It is also the willingness to stand up for what you believe in, even when you are in the minority.
Self-control is necessary for character. Self-control is the ability to manage our emotions and desires. It is also the ability to resist temptation and make wise choices.
Justice is a key component of character. Justice is the desire to treat others fairly and equitably. It is also the willingness to stand up for what is right, even when it is inconvenient.
Generosity is another important aspect of character. Generosity is the willingness to give of our time, money, and talents to help others. It is also the willingness to forgive those who have wronged us.
Gratitude is a virtue that enhances character. Gratitude is the appreciation for the good things in our lives. It is also the willingness to be thankful for the people who have helped us along the way.
Humility is the mother of all virtues. Humility is the recognition that we are all flawed human beings. It is also the willingness to learn from our mistakes and to grow as individuals.
Brooks argues that character is essential for living a good and meaningful life. He also argues that character can be developed through struggle, relationships, and the cultivation of virtues such as humility, courage, self-control, justice, generosity, gratitude, and forgiveness.
Here are some additional tips for developing good character:
• Be mindful of your thoughts and actions. Pay attention to your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. Notice when you are acting in accordance with your values and when you are not.
• Set goals for yourself. What kind of person do you want to be? What values do you want to live by? Set goals for yourself and make a plan for how to achieve them.
• Find role models. Look for people who embody the qualities that you admire. Learn from them and model your own behavior after theirs.
• Be patient. It takes time and effort to develop good character. Don't get discouraged if you don't see results immediately. Just keep working at it and you will eventually reach your goals.
Developing good character is a lifelong journey. But it is a journey that is well worth taking. By following the lessons above, you can become a better person and live a more fulfilling life..NNL.
By Bent Flyvbjerg and Dan Gardner
Big is best built from small. It's important to start with a clear and realistic vision for your project, and then break it down into smaller, more manageable tasks.
Be a team maker. No one can successfully complete a big project alone. Surround yourself with a team of talented and dedicated people who share your vision.
Master the unknown unknowns. Even the most well-planned projects will encounter unexpected challenges. Be prepared to adapt and adjust as needed.
Know that your biggest risk is you. The biggest threat to the success of your project is not the unexpected, but your own biases and blind spots. Be humble and open to feedback.
Be transparent and honest. Communicate openly with stakeholders about the progress of your project, even when things aren't going according to plan.
Don't be afraid to fail. Failure is a natural part of any learning process. If something doesn't work out, don't be afraid to try something different.
Celebrate success. It's important to recognize and celebrate the successes of your team, both big and small.
Don't try to do everything yourself. It's important to delegate tasks to your team members and trust them to get the job done.
Set realistic expectations. It's important to be realistic about the cost, time, and resources required to complete your project.
Be flexible and adaptable. Things don't always go according to plan. Be prepared to adapt and adjust your approach as needed.
Communicate effectively. Communication is key to the success of any project. Be clear, concise, and consistent in your communication with stakeholders.
Manage risks effectively. Identify and assess the risks associated with your project, and develop strategies to mitigate them.
Empower your team. Give your team members the authority and resources they need to be successful.
Be data-driven. Use data to inform your decision-making throughout the project lifecycle.
Learn from your mistakes. Every project is an opportunity to learn and grow. Take the time to reflect on your successes and failures, and identify areas for improvement.
Following these lessons can help you to successfully complete big projects on time and on budget. NNL.
By Dr Sarah Davis
Here are 15 lessons from How to Leave a Narcissist for Good: Moving on from Abusive and Toxic Relationships by Melissa A. Fenn
Narcissists are incapable of giving you the love and support you need. They are only interested in using you to get what they want.
Leaving a narcissist is not easy. They will try everything they can to keep you in the relationship, including manipulation, threats, and violence.
It is important to have a plan in place before you leave a narcissist. This includes having a place to stay, a financial plan, and a support system of friends and family.
It is important to go no contact with a narcissist after you leave them. This means cutting off all communication with them, including phone calls, text messages, and social media.
It is important to heal from the emotional abuse that you have experienced. This may involve therapy, support groups, or self-care.
You are not alone. There are many people who have left narcissistic relationships and have gone on to live happy and fulfilling lives.
Narcissists are master manipulators. They will use any tactic to get what they want, including gaslighting, guilt-tripping, and love bombing.
Narcissists have a deep-seated need for admiration and validation. They will never be satisfied with the love and support that you give them.
Narcissists are incapable of empathy. They do not care about your feelings or your needs.
Narcissists are often physically and emotionally abusive. They may use violence, threats, or intimidation to control you.
If you are in a relationship with a narcissist, it is important to know that you can leave and that you can heal. It will be difficult, but it is possible. There are many resources available to help you, including books, websites, and support groups. You are not alone. NNL.
By Dr Stephanie Moulton Sarkis
Gaslighting is a manipulative tactic that causes individuals to doubt their reality. Stephanie Moulton Sarkis' book "Gaslighting" sheds light on this serious form of emotional abuse and provides valuable insights on how to break free from the cycle of manipulation. Here are some key takeaways from the book that can help you regain control of your life.
By David Deida
Search for Freedom The primary motive of a masculine man is freedom and purpose. Everything he does gets him one step closer. It's his mission and nothing will stand in his way.
By Robert I. Sutton
Identify idiots early. The sooner you can identify an idiot, the sooner you can start to protect yourself from them.
