STOP DATING FOR WRONG REASONS

By Michael West

Dating is a prelude to marriage for adults. It is otherwise known as courtship but because some engaged adults don't really want to settle down, they remain in dating for as long as it serves their purposes and interests.

STOP VICTIMIZING PEOPLE WITH MENTAL HEALTH CHALLENGES, PREACHES AWARENESS CAMPAIGNER

• * Says Cases Can Be Tamed, Managed

By Princess Simon (Bureau Chief North Central, in Minna)

As Nigeria joins other countries to mark the 2021 World Mental Health Day, a Mental Health Awareness Advocate in Niger state, Aisha Obiageli Wakaso, has over the weekend in Minna, Niger state called for an end to the stigmatization of victims of mental health-related issues.

TAKE ME AS YOUR WIFE NUMBER 8, EKITI MEDICAL DOCTOR BEGS OONI OF IFE

• * As Monarch Is Set To Wed 7th Wife October 29

By Becky Ujam (Lifestyle/Fashion Reporter)

A female medical doctor from Ekiti state, Bella Nifemi, has made application to the Ooni of Ife, His Royal Highness, Oba Enitan Adeyeye Ogunwusi, Ojaja II, to become his wife number eight.

TEN LESSONS FROM THE BOOK, 'THE COMPOUND EFFECT'

By Darren Hardy

1. The little things matter. Small, seemingly insignificant actions can have a big impact over time.

2. Consistency is key. The key to success is to be consistent with your actions, even if they are small.

3. Take action now. Don't wait for the perfect moment to start taking action. Just start today.

4. Track your progress. Tracking your progress will help you stay motivated and on track.

5. Don't give up. The journey to success is not always easy, but it is important to never give up.

6. Be patient. The compound effect takes time to work its magic. Don't expect to see results overnight.

7. Be positive. A positive attitude will help you stay motivated and focused on your goals.

8. Surround yourself with positive people. The people you spend time with have a big impact on your success. Surround yourself with positive people who will support you on your journey.

9. Celebrate your wins. When you achieve a goal, take the time to celebrate your success. This will help you stay motivated and keep moving forward.

10. Never stop learning. The world is constantly changing, so it is important to never stop learning. The more you learn, the more successful you will be.

These are just a few of the lessons that can be learned from the book "The Compound Effect." If you are serious about achieving your goals, I highly recommend reading this book.NNL.

THE ANATOMY OF A 'SLAY QUEEN'

By Ninyo Omidiji

Slay queen! Men, young men especially, have been advised to avoid them, regardless of where they met this breed of the female species. Men have equally been advised to resist being with them.

THE ART OF PUBLIC SPEAKING

By Dale Carnegie

The Art of Public Speaking is a book by Dale Carnegie that has been in print since 1936. It is one of the best-selling books on public speaking ever published, and it has been translated into over 40 languages.

THE BOOK, 'THE PYRAMID MIND'

By Vlad Beliavsky

The book, "The Pyramid Mind" by Vlad Beliavsky is a book that explores the power of the mind and provides insights on how to unlock its potential.

Here are 8 key lessons from the book:

1. Harness the power of visualization: The book emphasizes the importance of visualizing your goals and desires. By creating a clear mental image of what you want to achieve, you can align your thoughts and actions towards making it a reality.

2. Cultivate a positive mindset: Beliavsky emphasizes the significance of maintaining a positive mindset. Negative thoughts and self-doubt can hinder your progress, so it's important to focus on positive affirmations and beliefs to overcome obstacles and achieve success.

3. Practice mindfulness and self-awareness: The book encourages readers to cultivate mindfulness and self-awareness. By being present in the moment and understanding your thoughts and emotions, you can better manage stress, make conscious choices, and improve your overall well-being.

4. Embrace the power of intention: Beliavsky highlights the power of setting clear intentions. By defining what you want to achieve and aligning your actions with your intentions, you can create a strong sense of purpose and direction in your life.

5. Develop a growth mindset: The book emphasizes the importance of adopting a growth mindset, which involves believing in your ability to learn and grow. By embracing challenges, persisting through setbacks, and seeking opportunities for growth, you can unlock your full potential.

6. Utilize the power of affirmations: Beliavsky suggests using positive affirmations to reprogram your subconscious mind. By repeating affirmations that align with your goals and aspirations, you can create a positive internal dialogue that supports your success.

7. Embrace the concept of interconnectedness: The book explores the idea that everything in the universe is interconnected. Beliavsky encourages readers to recognize the interconnectedness of all things and to cultivate a sense of unity and compassion towards others.

8. Take inspired action: The book emphasizes the importance of taking action towards your goals. Beliavsky suggests that by combining visualization, intention, and a positive mindset with inspired action, you can manifest your desires and create the life you envision. NNL.

THE DANGERS OF A SILENT WIFE!

By A.S.A Harrison

1. Deceptive Appearances: The book underscores the idea that appearances can be deceiving. On the surface, a marriage may seem stable and content, but beneath the facade, there can be hidden tensions and secrets.

2. Unaddressed Issues: Ignoring or avoiding underlying issues in a relationship can lead to long-term problems. The characters in the book demonstrate the dangers of not addressing concerns and conflicts head-on.

3. Consequences of Infidelity: The Silent Wife explores the devastating consequences of infidelity on a marriage. It delves into the emotional toll that cheating takes on both partners and the ripple effects on their lives.

4. Emotional Detachment: The book illustrates the impact of emotional detachment within a marriage. When partners become emotionally distant, it can create a void that may be filled by external factors, leading to further complications.

5. Power Dynamics in Relationships: The novel delves into power dynamics within relationships, examining how one partner may exert control or influence over the other. Understanding and addressing imbalances of power is crucial for a healthy partnership.

6. Self-Reflection: The Silent Wife suggests the importance of self-reflection. Characters grapple with their own flaws and shortcomings, and the narrative encourages readers to reflect on their own behaviors and motivations within their relationships.

7. Communication Breakdown: A breakdown in communication is a central theme in the book. Misunderstandings, lack of communication, and assumptions contribute to the deterioration of the characters' relationships. Open and honest communication is presented as vital for maintaining a strong connection.

8. Dependency and Independence: The novel explores the concept of dependency within relationships and the consequences of being overly reliant on a partner. It advocates for the importance of maintaining individual identities and a sense of independence.

9. Coping Mechanisms: The characters in the book employ various coping mechanisms to deal with their emotions and the challenges in their relationships. The story prompts readers to consider healthy ways of coping with stress and adversity.

10. Choices and Accountability: The Silent Wife underscores the idea that individuals are accountable for their choices and actions. The consequences of decisions, whether intentional or not, play a significant role in shaping the course of a relationship.

While these lessons are drawn from the themes explored in The Silent Wife, it's important to approach them as fictional insights rather than prescriptive advice for real-life relationships. Each relationship is unique, and individuals may find different lessons resonating with their own experiences.NNL.

THE EFFECTS OF ABSENT FATHERS ON THEIR DAUGHTERS

By Susan E. Schwartz

1. Beyond Physical Absence: The book argues that an emotionally unavailable father can be just as damaging as a physically absent one. Critical, distant, or emotionally neglectful fathers can leave a lasting impact on their daughters' development.

2. The "Father Desire" and Identity Formation: Schwartz explores the concept of the "father desire," a daughter's innate longing for a loving, supportive father figure. This desire plays a crucial role in shaping her sense of self-worth and identity. When this desire is unfulfilled, it can lead to feelings of insecurity, loneliness, and a fragmented sense of self.

3. The Archetypal Wound: Drawing on Jungian psychology, the book explores the archetypal father figure. A healthy father embodies masculine archetypes like strength, guidance, and protection. The absence of these qualities can create an "archetypal wound" that affects a daughter's relationships with men and authority figures throughout her life.

4. The Splintered Voice: Schwartz suggests that the "father wound" can manifest as a "silenced voice" within daughters. They may struggle to express themselves authentically or feel unworthy of being heard. The book explores methods for daughters to reclaim their voices and find their authentic expression.

5. Healing the Wound: "The Absent Father Effect on Daughters" is not a book about blaming fathers. Instead, it offers a path to healing for daughters affected by father absence. The book explores therapeutic methods like journaling, dream analysis, and inner child work to help daughters understand the impact of their upbringing and begin the healing process.

6. The Importance of Self-Compassion: A core message of the book is self-compassion. Schwartz encourages daughters to understand that their father's absence was not their fault and to treat themselves with kindness and understanding.

7. Reclaiming Your Power: The book empowers daughters to reclaim their personal power. By understanding the "father wound" and working through its effects, daughters can develop healthy relationships, strong self-esteem, and a greater sense of self-worth. NNL.

THE EVIL OF BY FIRE BY FORCE MARRIAGE!

(A True Life Story)

There are many things we don’t know and one of them is that, sometimes, marriage is not by fire or by force. Even though I am a Christian, I was raised to believe that God hates divorce but God doesn’t mean the person involved in divorce.

THE INTERESTING STORY OF BILLIONAIRE ARISTOTLE ONASIS AND HIS 'SIDE CHICS'

There existed a Greek Billionaire from Argentina in the 50s. His name was Aristotle Onasis. Onasis made his money as a Logistician,in Whaling,and Oil.

THE LESSONS IN 'RICH DAD, POOR DAD'

By Robert T. Kiyosaki

1. The importance of financial education: Kiyosaki emphasizes the need to educate oneself about money and financial matters. He argues that schools often fail to teach us about money management and that financial literacy is crucial for building wealth.

THE POWER OF A WOMAN'S TONGUE

By Akello Oliech and Dayan Masinde

1. A woman's greatest power is in her words, whereas men are physically strong, a woman can bring down a man just with her tongue

2. A woman's words can encourage a man and be his greatest inspiration, or discourage him and be his greatest nightmare. The more he loves her, the more power she has over him

3. A woman's tongue can destroy her own children's self-esteem with harsh and cold words. A woman's words can uplift her own children with words of hope, faith and love. How children remember their childhood is based on how their mother spoke to them

4. A woman's tongue can be very suggestive that implies to many men that she is interested in them. This type of woman comes off as flirtatious. If she is single, she misleads men; if she is married, she makes her husband insecure as he wonders why she speaks to other men with a sexual undertone

5. A woman's tongue can chase friends away with her mean tone, stinging jokes and insensitive words. A woman's tongue can keep friends because her words create an environment of care

6. A woman's tongue can be a gossip machine and she hangs around women who are also gossip machines, eventually, these women destroy each other, their marriages, their careers, their peace and other people's lives just with their tongue

7. A woman's toxic tongue can make her husband avoid coming back home to her, he deliberately comes home late to avoid her even though he is not cheating. A woman's loving tongue can make her husband come home early because he feels at home with her, he even enjoys calling her over the phone

8. A woman who is emotionally unstable is reckless with her tongue, lashing out and saying irrational things. A woman who is emotionally stable is responsible with her tongue, she may be moody, hormonal or not having a good day but she is still measured in her response

9. A woman's tongue can be a weapon that provokes a man with words such "You are not man enough", "You poor man cannot handle me", "Worthless", "Beat me, I dare you". A woman's tongue can be a peace maker, calming down conflict, stopping fires before they escalate, showing her man understanding and appreciation

10. A woman's tongue can destroy or build her own home. With her tone, she sets the mood of the home

11. A woman's words can cancel her own progress, dreams and prayers... Or she can use her tongue to make effectual and fervent prayers, command her morning and speak life to her dreams, husband, children and society

There is power in her tongue. NNL.

The Power Of Body Language: HOW TO GET PEOPLE TO DO WHAT YOU WANT

By Gregory Hartley and Maryann Karinch

10 practical lessons from "Get People to Do What You Want: How to Use Body Language and Words for Maximum Effect":

1. Read Body Language: Understand nonverbal cues like posture, facial expressions, and gestures. People often communicate more with their bodies than their words.

2. Master Your Body Language: Be mindful of your own posture, facial expressions, and eye contact. Project confidence, openness, and trustworthiness through nonverbal communication.

3. Mirror and Match: Subtly mimic the other person's body language to build rapport and create a sense of connection.

4. Active Listening is Key: Pay close attention to what the other person is saying, both verbally and nonverbally. Ask clarifying questions and show genuine interest to build trust.

5. Speak Clearly and Confidently: Use a confident tone of voice, avoid filler words like "um" and "ah," and enunciate clearly to command attention.

6. The Power of Storytelling: Weave stories and anecdotes into your communication to make your message more memorable and engaging.

7. Frame Your Requests Effectively: Learn how to phrase your requests in a way that is more likely to be met with a positive response. Focus on benefits and mutual gain.

8. Harness the Power of Silence: Don't be afraid to use strategic pauses in conversation. This can create anticipation and allow the other person to reflect on what you've said.

9. Read People's Instincts: Develop your ability to pick up on subtle cues that reveal a person's underlying trust or mistrust. Be Authentic: While these techniques can be helpful, don't resort to manipulation. The most effective communication is built on authenticity and genuine connection. NNL.

THE ROAD TO A DOCTOR'$ NIGERIA

By Azu Ishiekwene

There Was a Country, lamented Chinua Achebe, Nigeria’s literary icon and one of the world’s greatest storytellers. Achebe’s title evokes many things in the mind beyond its primary thematic concern – a journal of the author’s experiences of the Biafran War, which raged between 1967 and 1970. Among other things, it raises the question: What happened to the country?

THE TRAGEDY OF COVID-19 VIRUS

By Dr Dons Eze

The tragedy of Coronavirus, otherwise known as COVID-19, which they say, originated from the town of Wuhan, in China, in 2019, is not only because at the last count, about 14.3 million people worldwide, were said to have been infected with the disease, while more than 603,000 others have so far died as a result, but also because majority of Nigerians do not believe that Coronavirus actually exists, or that it can kill.

THIS.BOOK WILL MAKE YOU DANGEROUS!

By Tripp Lanier

The 7 powerful lessons from the book "This Book Will Make You Dangerous"

TIPS FROM THE BOOK, 'HOW TO HAVE A GREAT CAREER'

By Larry Smith

Here are valuable lessons on 'How to Have a Great Career: Find Your Passion, Achieve Your Goals, Love What You Do by Larry Smith.

TOP 10 KEY TAKEAWAYS FROM THE BOOK, 'The COMPASSIONATE ACHIEVER: HOW HELPING OTHERS FUELS SUCCESS'

By Christopher L. Kukk

1. Compassion is not about being a martyr or a paragon of virtue. It's about rejecting rage and indifference and choosing instead to be a thoughtful, caring problem-solver.

2. Compassion is a skill that can be learned and developed. There are four key skills of compassion: listening, understanding, connecting, and acting.

3. Compassion is good for your health. Studies have shown that compassion can reduce stress, improve your immune system, and even extend your lifespan.

4. Compassion is good for your relationships. When you are compassionate, you are more likely to build strong, lasting relationships.

5. Compassion is good for your work. Compassionate people are more effective leaders, collaborators, and problem-solvers.

6. Compassion is good for the world. When we are compassionate, we create a more caring and just society.

7. There are many ways to practice compassion. You can volunteer your time, donate to charity, or simply be kind and helpful to others.

8. Start small. Don't feel like you have to do something big to be compassionate. Even small acts of kindness can make a difference.

9. Be patient. It takes time to develop compassion. Don't get discouraged if you don't see results immediately.

10. Don't give up. Compassion is a journey, not a destination. Keep practicing and you will eventually become a more compassionate person.

I hope these takeaways inspire you to practice compassion in your own life. It's a skill that is good for you, your relationships, your work, and the world. NNL.

TOP 10 LESSONS LEARNED FROM THE BOOK 'THE WAY OF THE SUPERIOR MAN'

By David Deida

1. Search for Freedom The primary motive of a masculine man is freedom and purpose. Everything he does gets him one step closer. It's his mission and nothing will stand in his way.